The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made as to how it leads to suffering and why individuals should not participate in doing so. If you assume what others think, it can create stress and interpersonal conflict, because the person thinks that his hypothesis is a representation of the truth.  Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the adoption act is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear.  Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not taking any assumptions.  Even if the chords are sometimes too simplified, it is still a big little book with some heavy ideas. Focusing on one of these chords can dramatically improve your life and reduce stress; Focusing on all four can really change a lot of people`s lives. If followed in a general and non-fanatical way, these proposals can help you reduce a large amount of stress by helping you avoid patterns of thought and behavior that create frustration, accusations, hurt emotions and other negative emotions. Imagine someone coming up to you on the street and saying, “You`re stupid.” Hopefully you don`t give weight to that person`s opinion and that you spend over your day without being influenced, but it`s easy for us to be pulled down by what the people around us are saying. Don Miguel says that if you personally take this abuse of a stranger and you implant it in our fertile mind, then maybe we are really stupid… If you take things in person, you`re vulnerable. Everyone is infected with some kind of emotional poison from his childhood. Your venom can contaminate you and make you sick.
That`s what happens when you`re angry, possessed or insulted. Not taking things personally is like a vaccine that makes you safe from the emotional poison of others, so you can easily move around the world. That`s how everyone puts on a mask and starts living in a dream. We believe in all these things and we live by all these rules that we have never stopped thinking about. Don Miguel calls all these beliefs and rules “agreements,” because we for these beliefs and rules were part of our AGREE dream.